Daniel P. Barron

You walk as close to God as you want.

Thursday, January 17, 2019 

I had brought up in a public chat that masturbation is not wrong, and I was silenced from being able to continue. Someone continued the thread via direct message.

How do you explain Galatians 5:19? "Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality." i Masturbation is definitely sensual.

NKJV says adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness. ii

Romans 13:13: "Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy." iii Sensuality is a theme in the bible. Masturbation is definitely sensual; it's clearly a work of the flesh. Which is opposed to the Spirit. Galatians 5:24: "And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires." iii

Sex with your wife is sensual, and that's clearly not wrong.

Of course sensuality is a work of the flesh, regardless if she is your wife or not; that's why the Bible teaches you to spend time apart so that they don't fall into lustful sensuality. Marriage is supposed be about love, and not sensual desire fulfillment. I don't think you can have a pure relationship where love trumps sensuality, when it's masturbation. God also says don't pervert the marriage bed.

The Bible says the bed of marriage is undefiled. iv

Exactly, pure.. and the works of the flesh are not pure.

So then this is not proof that masturbation is wrong.

Indeed it is saying that masturbation is not pure, which makes it a work of the flesh, which is against the Spirit.

Where does it say that?

When they used the word undefiled, and also the words flesh desires.

Nothing defiles the marriage bed.

We can get into that if you want, but just so you know, you aren't married to your hand. If the marriage bed is supposed to be kept pure, which means opposite of the works of the flesh, then imagine what you and your unmarried hand are getting into. Works of the flesh..

Masturbation isn't what you call sensual, and neither is sex with a wife.

Do you think masturbation is a desire of the flesh? Or is it a spiritual thing from God? Holy and pure? Jude 1:19: "These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit." v James 3:15: "This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish." v

It doesn't say masturbation, or that it is wrong.

There is no right and wrong for the believer; there is only love, but walking in the flesh, which masturbation is because it is sensual, and a desire of the flesh, just hinders your relationship with God. You can still have a good relationship, but it wont be the best that it could be if you practiced holiness, and were more aligned with the Spirit; instead of being aligned with the flesh.

Jesus also did not get married as an example; nor did He ever say masturbation was holy and good. So your logic isn't solid. It's your life; I'm not judging you, but to spare you some embarrassment: there's no need to be an advocate in public for masturbation. Especially in a spiritual environment.

Well, judging is believing and this is a spiritual war. I am not offended anyway. Do you agree that sex with a wife is also "sensual" ?

Yes, but I can't speak for everyone who is married who through the grace of God's love have overcome the lust of marital sex. Those would be very spiritually mature marriages.

It isn't wrong to want to have sex with your wife. In fact, nothing defiles the bed of marriage.

It's not about right and wrong; it's about being closer to God or further away. The man who gets married is not as close to God as the virgin, because their desires aren't the same.

You are either saved or you aren't. Where does the Bible say that. It says that it is better not to marry, sure; but it doesn't make you less saved. And it also says that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. vi

1 Corinthians 7:32-34: "I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided." v It also states that the circumstance that you were called is the one you should stay in. So if you were called single don't look for a wife. If you were married don't look to be single. vii

Right, but still it is not wrong to marry. If God makes you fall in love.

Back to verse 32. Divided interests... Not that it's wrong, but its not as good as a holy life like Jesus lived: celibate. 1 John 2:15-16: "Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world." v So you see the married woman cares for the things of the world.

Yes these things are right, what was the point though? None of this means it is wrong to masturbate. In fact, masturbation helps you stay focused on preaching the Gospel.

I already asked you and you did not answer.. do you think masturbation is a holy spiritual thing or a flesh desire?

It relates to the flesh. That doesn't mean it is wrong to do!

Listen no one is talking about right or wrong but you. I'm talking about being as close to God as possible in this life.

I had people telling me it is wrong to masturbate. That is a very common lie.

Right and wrong isn't the issue I'm talking about with you; I only care to share information regarding masturbation being related to the flesh and how the Bible says the flesh is opposed to the Spirit and not to walk after the flesh. I just want you to know the information and make your own choice. You walk as close to God as you want. That is all I'm saying.

I masturbate so that i can focus more on contending for the faith. Because my flesh lusts, and if i don't get release, it will lust more to the point that it is distracting.

Whatever your reasoning it's none of my business you yourself admit its of the flesh. I just wanted you to see that.

Going to the bathroom to relieve myself is of the flesh; should I not do that? That's time I could have spent preaching!

Are you having sexual thought while taking a poop or taking a piss? Are you getting pleasure from a sexual mind set?

Sexual thought isn't necessarily wrong. And my point was, going pee is a flesh thing: sexual or not.

It is because its temptation and the Bible says to flee from it; the believer should have a clear conscience focused on things above. Not on the body/flesh.

If you have a sexual thought about your wife, you haven't done wrong.

But if you act on it lustfully or even accept that lustful thought and desire her flesh then it's walking in the flesh. Which is opposed to walking in the Spirit. For this reason Jesus did not marry. He is Lord over the flesh sir.

Christ is too married! God is married to the church, and to Israel.

Spiritual marriage. No martial sex. No flesh involved. We are called to be like Jesus.

God has flesh.

Not like how ever you want. Just cause we have flesh doesn't mean we should walk in it. We are souls; not bodies.

I think you are trying to get around the fact that you think masturbation is wrong.

  1. NASB ^
  2. Galatians 5:

    19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness,


  3. ESV ^ ^
  4. Hebrews 13:

    4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.


  5. KJV ^ ^ ^ ^
  6. Proverbs 18:

    22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
    And obtains favor from the Lord.


  7. 1 Corinthians 7:

    25 Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.


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